Today I had a friend over who is trying out homeschooling for the summer to see if this change is right for his children and family. I love this family. He’s a stay-at-home-dad and his wife runs a successful practice. They have three darling girls–each is a daughter of a different country adopted from birth. Like all parents, my friends what what is best for their children and right now, they are doubting that public education really fits the bill. So they are seriously looking into home education.
Among the discussions of “how do you do it?” and “What is the curriculum you use?”, we also talked about the inevitable holes our children have as they grow up. As parents, we might wish that if we parent right, our children won’t have any holes so they can become amazing and successful adults. But I’ve come to accept the holes I’ll leave in my children just as I recognize the holes in my own life. Holes are a good thing–they give us something to fill–something to work on and achieve personally.
In the matter of education, I’ve also realized that no matter where children are educated, they will have holes. It’s the type of holes we want to avoid and the kinds that we are okay with that make a difference as to where we educate them. As a home educator, my children will not experience a 1st grade class play, a 3rd grade choir, arts and crafts every day of Kindergarten, daily recess with peers, and class PE. But they will also not be bored while waiting for the teacher to teach through 5 different learning styles to teach a concept, they will not be taught to a test, they will not experience negative peer influence on the bus or elsewhere. And they will definitely receive consistent discipline, behavior, and character building lessons at home. I choose the home education holes over the public education holes. The nicest thing about approaching an educational hole as a homeschooler is that I don’t have to have a parent-teacher-principal-superintendant-educational system conference to fill that hole. I just have to take an honest look at myself, my child, our home, and our curriculum to make the change where it needs to happen.
What do you think about the holes that inevitably come into your child’s life?